62647: Sep 3, 2007

Have you ever been angry? Undoubtedly we all have. What you probably have not done however is ever take time to evaluate and explore the underlying reasons to your anger.

That being said, without fully and truly knowing what it is that angers you, it makes it awfully difficult to curb future emotional outbursts of anger and control your inner world. Therefore it is most advantageous for us to explore what it is that most often angers people.

Here are some reasons people get angry.

1. Disappointment

Disappointment is a major cause for anger. When people, things, and situations beyond our control disappoint us, it can be very difficult to endure. When individuals make decisions that negatively effect your life and throw you for a loop, that can be tough. When life throws you a curve ball, how are you going to respond? Anger may be the initial reaction, but it will never change the situation nor make it go away. You can scare away people, but not your problems which often resurface over time when not properly dealt with.

2. Unrealistic expectations

Unrealistic expectations are unfortunate when you feel you have to live up to someone's impression of you that is beyond what you are humanly capable of. Even worse is being the one applying this undue pressure on people via your weighty and lofty expectations. We all live in flesh and blood. People make mistakes, oversleep, show up late, and blunder a bit from time to time.

Never judge another by their actions and yourself merely by your intentions. Most people are kind, good hearted, and have pure intentions. Therefore if they fall short a time or two, don't you demonize and demoralize them. If you were honest with yourself, you often need mercy too!

3. Demands

Demanding people think they deserve much, when in actuality they often contribute little. People who are demanding are often dealing with inner issues from childhood when their parents lorded themselves over them and demanded perfection. Push and demanding people rub us the wrong way. Nobody wants to be around a demanding person. Therefore don't be one yourself, unless you enjoy being hated and alone.

4. Pride and self-righteousness

Pride, arrogance, and self-righteousness causes some people to easily anger. Because they think they are so special, they easily downgrade others in their mind and project despising accusations in their looks, tone, and words. Pride precedes a fall. If you are high-minded and full of yourself, beware for humiliation awaits you. Better is it to humble yourself and be inwardly broken than to exalt yourself and boast excessively. He or she who exalts themselves shall surely be brought down and humbled in due time.

5. Disrespect

People who disrespect themselves often despise others. Unbeknownst to themselves, because of their own self hatred, they project this on to others closest to them. The very people who love them the most, they often mistreat. Because such a person has a low self image and poor self esteem, they poorly treat others and angrily react over every minute detail with which they disagree. What they don't realize and know is it is they who are the disagreeable and devilish one causing all of the problems.

6. Manipulation tactics

Some people like to employ anger as a means to frighten people into doing what they want. It's nothing more than a manipulation tactic that they overtly use to get what they want. If you are on the recipient end of that mistreatment, get a backbone and stand up for yourself. What you refuse to confront you can never correct.

7. Incapable of Communicating

Uneducated people and emotionally troubled people, often resort to anger to shout to the world to leave them alone. Like an injured person who doesn't want to be touched at the place of injury and infection, inwardly hurting people are no different. If you confront them about the area of their life out of order, they may get angry and revolt. This is because they don't have the patience and self-control to honestly discuss their dilemma and work through it. Reacting angrily has proven easier for them as they think they can drive their hurt and dysfunction away momentarily by having a temper tantrum.

8. Confused and Tormented Inwardly

Confused people are often tormented within, unstable, and perplexed unto internal anguish. Because they are vexed within, they go through life easily susceptible to the mildest irritation. They explode easily and blow up over the slightest injury.

9. Frustrated in Life

Frustration and lack of progress in one's life can cause them to become depressed, think less of themselves, and angrily react to others who seem to have their life in order. It's underlying root is envy and jealousy, which causes them to react in hostility.

Such a person must learn to honor and rejoice in others who are succeeding. As they do, relationships can emerge that will help them transcend their personal troubles, and triumph over what they are going through.

10. Miserable and Broken

Misery loves company. That being said if a miserable person encounters a happy person, the miserable person often tries to pull the happy soul down so as to be able to relate.

You don't have to be beaten down or overcome by anger.

Seek out a life purpose coach to overcome your past, live victoriously in the present, and walk gloriously into your future.

Paul Davis is a motivational speaker, life purpose coach, worldwide minister, change master, creative consultant, and turnaround specialist.

Paul is the author of several books including Breakthrough for a Broken Heart; Adultery: 101 Reasons Not to Cheat; Are You Ready for True Love; Stop Lusting & Start Living; Waves of God; Supernatural Fire; Poems that Propel the Planet; and God vs. Religion.

Paul's compassion for people & passion to travel has taken him to over 50 countries of the world where he has had a tremendous impact. Paul has served in many war-torn, impoverished and tsunami stricken regions of the earth. His Dream-Maker Inc. is building dreams, breaking limitations & reviving nations.

Paul's Seminars inspire, revive, awaken, impregnate with purpose, impart the fire of desire, catapult people into a new level of self-awareness, facilitate destiny discovery and dream fulfillment.

Contact Paul to minister, speak at your event or for life coaching:

RevivingNations@yahoo.com
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Why So Angry? Explore Reasons and Resolve Inner Issues

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